If I were in your spot, and at this point in my journey, I sort of am I would STOP TALKING TO HIM ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. I think you would really benefit from How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It. I’ve recommended that book to most women on this board, but I swear, you and your H sound like one of the couples the two authors used during their many studies. You’ve mentioned many times that he’s yet to say he wants to leave or separate….that’s really really good. So why do you keep starting conversations with him where he could possibly say something like that? (I think that’s the number one reason to avoid R talks…don’t let them say it out loud therefore putting pressure on them to follow through.) I can tell you why because I did it too….and it was a mistake. You want reassurances. You want him to say “Hey Baby, I’m just out of my mind for the time being. I’ll be back in just a short while but know that I love you and we’ll be fine.” Heads up….he’s not going to say that to you. Ever. Stop saying I love you. Let it go for a bit. Take the pressure off…you’ll be grateful you did. He does love you. He’s still there, and that’s proof enough. I do 100% agree with you…what he said to D when you left was indeed crappy. I think you handled it very well.
