dncrm...what you described is 'enabling'. It is the classic error we make here in this forum. We ALLOW the behavior out of fear. We become afraid of our spouses. We become afraid of being alone. We are AFRAID of divorce.

We then avoid confrontation, anger, arguments and worst..we stop defining boundaries. Michelle does NOT ascribe to any of this.

Actually, I would venture to say that much of the advice given out here actually pushes our S's further away by making us appear as weak, vulnerable and unable to fight for THEM by making TOUGH DECISIONS or enforcing TOUGH LOVE.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;