The adventure chronicles

[BobbiJo]

Ditto puppy. She was basically making an offer re. the school stuff. So a short reply that you have it covered will suffice. Detached but not rude...

[AFWAW]

So, I have my appointment today w/ my lawyer and I must say I am rather nervous. I know it's just a piece of paper but I've thought of nothing else this whole past weekend. I did respond very briefly to my wife's email. I think I'm on the other side of the spectrum with my emotions--I'm very angry lately when I think of her. I know I'm supposed to be emotionally detached and I think I'll get there but it's difficult. I think a good step for me was telling her to leave me alone and actually NOT taking her phone calls or responding to emails that are not about my daughter. Ugh, wish me luck.

[PMA_Baby!]

Good Luck Bud! Stay strong. Remember this is HER problem. Don't make it about YOU.

PMA

[AFWAW]

Well, I found out that basically the wife doesn't have a leg to stand on if we go to court with regards to custody of D. Other than that, it costs a butt load of money to get divorced. So, let's see-- it seems I'm still paying for sex even though I didn't get any--but the wife did or is for that matter--no wonder she hasn't filed, she can't afford to!!!

I hope she doesn't sleep well at night.

[marriedCrazy]

So what are you thinkin'? going to file or wait? Would she be willing to come to an agreement without lawyers?

did the consult give you any piece of mind?

[AFWAW]

So what are you thinkin'? going to file or wait?

I'm thinking it's time to file.

Would she be willing to come to an agreement without lawyers?

That's the million dollar question at this point--I don't know.

did the consult give you any piece of mind?

About custody of my daughter, yes, absolutely.

About everything else, no.

[AFWAW]

Well, even after all that has happened, after almost 7 months of seperation, I still find there are some nights where I don't sleep so well. Hopefully, with the boundries I've set about her not contacting me, things will get better for me shortly.

I have to go to the courthouse today to get the divorce paperwork. Hopefully, she will agree to everything so we don't have to do a contested divorce.

[BobbiJo]

Good luck today. I know this is what you need to do but it doesn't make it easy...

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Well, even after all that has happened, after almost 7 months of seperation, I still find there are some nights where I don't sleep so well. Hopefully, with the boundries I've set about her not contacting me, things will get better for me shortly.

I have to go to the courthouse today to get the divorce paperwork. Hopefully, she will agree to everything so we don't have to do a contested divorce.

John, as you know from the military, it doesn't always have to be FORCE, it can be the CREDIBLE THREAT of force that works just as well. Just knowing what you COULD get from her, and knowing THAT YOU KNOW this could be enough. I suspect, however, that she won't find your threat credible because you've taken so long to really do anything, and you'll have to follow thru with a contested action.

Puppy

[AFWAW]

I suspect, however, that she won't find your threat credible because you've taken so long to really do anything, and you'll have to follow thru with a contested action.

You may be correct in your statement. If this is the case, I can afford a lawyer without going into debt and at this point(unless OM is willing to foot the bill)I don't believe that she can. I don't see why she would want to contest though as I have seen no real indication, interest or action that would lead me to believe that she doesn't want a divorce or that she wants custody of my D. Soooo, I guess we'll see is the answer. I hope in this case, you are wrong as it has been painful enough without being dragged out.

Maybe I'm missing your point. If I am, do me a favor and spell it out. As you noticed already, I'm a little slow