Give it to me straight!

[mishka422]

No need to mention that you want to get out there and have fun. Just do it. If you put the idea in his head that is why you want him to have the kids those nights, he will come up with excuse after excuse why he can't in order to sabotage you. It seems to be the way his twisted little mind works. Again, JMO, but a strong feeling.

John, I'm not saying it's wrong either. I'm saying it would be wrong for BBJ. Why? Because of her strong beliefs. She knows what her moral limits are and I'm fairly certain that would be one of them. Until the ink is dry on the D papers, it's just not the right thing to do to get too involved with another man. Coffee, drinks, dancing, dinner, movies....all good. Sex....not so much. Kissing, flirting, banter....all good. Letting it get much beyond that until the D is final....not good. I think it would lead BBJ to having some regrets based on her own moral compass...that's all.

Now, I'm not saying that anyone who does engage in sex with someone else during their D process is immoral. Don't get me wrong! I'm only saying that for BBJ it wouldn't fit her values. She's strong! A real trooper and deserves fun and happiness! For heavens sakes! She's dealt with Dan's crap for so danged long that she should have a choir behind her singing her praises to anyone who will listen!!!!

LOVE YOU BBJ!!!!!!!!!