Whoa!! not true I love going out..she just wants to go out w friends during the week not me.
That's an empirical question, as they say. She goes out w/ friends because you don't go out. Now it may be the case that she prefers to go out with others, or it may be the case that others are a substitute for going out with you.
This is an opportune moment for a 180. Get yourself a sitter, give her the time/date, and take it to the streets. Not a looking-at-each-other-over-the-candles event -- DB Telephone Coach Jody says that's a dicey proposition -- but something that gets the endorphins pumping: Go-cart track, horse racing, bungee-jumping, balloon ride -- anything that is totally out of character.
Scratch the record -- it won't play the same way again.
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dburt: Time to quit keeping score and let her do her thing.
what does that mean? can i do my thing? who watches the kids?
What it means is that it doesn't matter if she goes out 5 times a week. You can't control it. So don't count anymore. You go out. When she calls and says, "I may need to work late," you reply, "Oh, wow, you know I have plans, and I'm really not willing to cancel them at this late date. I'd appreciate it if you'd work through lunch and get home by..."
