Bell, I want to reiterate, the affection, if he feels it will lead you to believe he wants sex. You will get none. And no reaction if he don't, crying will delayed your progress by week or months.
He has to feel safe cuddling and such, knowing you will not initate sex.
If he is willing;
Do the sitting in chairs, face to face, holding hands, and looking into each others eyes, and talk. You will hear the truth.
