MJ - I am starting to feel that shift in "power" or control like you are talking about - how the ball is more and more in my court. Like you, I have forgiven but I definitely need him to prove himself to me, just like you are saying.
I have also realized as I have changed that I definitely don't want things to go back to the way they were before, not exactly. My H is a total workaholic and gradually has become more and more so (which actually helped prepare me to be pretty much totally on my own with the kids now) over the years. My biggest gripe was that he didn't spend enough time with the family and I definitely didn't feel like we were a priority. I don't want to do that again. I totally see now that at least some of what drives his perfectionism and workaholism are some of the same issues that are driving his MLC. My prayer is that he is able to work through that and the rest will fall into place. It is all in God's hands.
