Kabelle, No it's not selfish to want love and affection from your H even if he doesn't feel like it. I really believe it is part of a spouse's responsibility to nurture their partner. Many of us would not be so concerned about lack of sex if there was more physical affection in general. I am in a similar situation and my H just seems so UNCOMFORTABLE with any form of affection. I wonder if it's something from their childhood or something that's come back to haunt? I do feel it's worth working on and exploring. Like it says in SSM if the LD partner would just allow themselves to be touched, the wall could begin to come down. Your husband seems to have built some kind of wall. Any ideas why? Starving
