Any of you girls out there have any thoughts on how she may feel and how I could break the "wall" down??
We've all asked that question and unfortunately, you have no control over her or her feelings right now. You're going to have to back off from trying to break the wall down and start making small changes and seeing what happens.
I know you want specifics. I can't dissect right now but I'll come back and others will chime in too.