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GIMA,

I've already had that discussion Sunday evening. I told her that I wanted to save our family. I disagreed with her choice of wanting to get a divorce (although I thought I was prepared for it 3 weeks ago) and not giving it one last try. We were only 2.5 weeks into working on things and she's already giving up. I asked her if she was truly prepared to only see our kids every other week. I told her I definitely was not. I told that this fact alone is enough for me to keep trying. I told her that it would kill me to see a "step dad" holding my kids one day and that I was sure it would do the same to her if a "step-mom" was doing the same. Yes, this may have been a guilt trip, but I believe these to be tough consequences of divorce.

I told her that if she desired a divorce, she would have to be the one filing...and taking responsibility for breaking up the family...not me. I'll take the blame for putting our family in this situation, but not for ending it all. I also said that she can approach me, even in the final hour, to let me know she had a change of heart...it was never too late.

It was then Sunday night when I approached W with Retrovaille. She gave me an immediate yes to my suggestion. I was shocked...no begging, no pleading, and no convincing on my behalf necessary. I surmise her quick response was due to the guilt that was starting to eat her up inside, if not already. It doesn't matter as long as she's going.

GIMA...I know your busy with work...reply at a convienient time.

Thanks,
LFH