Bugs Bunny:"GET ME OUTTA HERE"

[K4D]

dncrm,

I hope I can say the same thing as well. However, I'm obviously hoping for a quicker turn around time than that. But I also know that it is not in my control when W comes back. Don't get me wrong, there are times when I feel some anger, but I put it out of my mind sooner than later. And I am not saying anger is not justified. I'm just saying I don't see it helping a sitch if you keep that anger.

My W is very angry at me and blames me for everything. But I find that when I am nice to her and let things roll off my back, that the cordialness returns from her. Granted, no R has returned. But we can get along for the kids sake when I throw my anger out. And if you have kids, that is a good starting point on something that you can bond with. From there you can slowly step into other areas to bond with.

I think to often what people forget is that it isn't always going to be a turn around time when we want it to be. Thats why great patience is required. And that patience as in your sitch can take years and years sometimes. It is different for every WAS as to when they finally come to their senses as well as when you yourself finally make those real true lasting changes. If you do it temporarily and then give up and get angry, they don't see a real lasting change. They see the same old person that they left.

Kevin