H: ...Well...I didn't mean THAT. I just say things wrong. You can't get mad when I say things wrong.
He told me he wants me to listen to him and go along with him. I said YOU need to listen to you. You need to hear the words that come out of your mouth.
"I am not mad, please don't assume you know what I think or feel. If you want to know just ask but please don't assume to know."
"I did really listen to you. That's why it is confusing to me. I can't just go along when you aren't communicating what you really mean. Can you understand how I would feel that way?"
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I will think about your advice..but the only reason I put up with this is because
That is another way of saying you are enabling his bad behavior. Just do the right thing for you and your kids. Your husband is terrified of being loved. (If I remember correct his parents are dysfunctional) You need to show him what real love looks, feels, smells, tastes and sounds like.
Give yourself some credit. You are making some big progress.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
