The first thing you have to do is find a way to let your anger go. As long as you are angry, nothing will change in your W. You have every right to be angry, don't get me wrong. But what positive comes out of anger? Don't we teach our kids to not be angry and instead look for alternative healthy ways to deal with situations?
What actions have you taken to try and lose some anger?
I hope I am not infringing here on you as I am only trying to be of some assistance if I may be.
I realize you have been at this for 3 years. Did you lose your anger at times during this situation? Can you do it again? Have you sought help in releasing your anger? My guess is that it probably bleeds over into your W's attitude and reactions. Granted I know very little about your sitch and I will admit that.
But I think if you can take the first step towards not feeling anger anymore and projecting a positive life and attitude, I don't think your W can stay mad at your forever. It may take time. But eventually I can see that winning out over her. It is hard to stay angry at someone forever if they are always positive, happy, and nice.
If I have over stepped my bounds, please feel free to let me know.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
