LOL...I have the Gottman book. It says we're 95% likely to get divorced.
Believe me, I already have to edit myself, soften startups to all conversations, etc etc etc. That's called "walking on eggshells."
I think Learned Optimism could help him with his negativity...but when he starts getting self-contradictory and saying things that aren't true, etc. well, that's something else.
I left out another entire argument we had where he was making wild accusations and carrying on, and got mad at me that I didn't just say, "you're right, H." (he said that)
ME: But I did not do XYZ, or think XYZ, etc.
H: I didn't say XYZ.
Me: You just DID say THAT.
H: ...Well...I didn't mean THAT. I just say things wrong. You can't get mad when I say things wrong.
He told me he wants me to listen to him and go along with him. I said YOU need to listen to you. You need to hear the words that come out of your mouth.
That was the end of that conversation.
I will think about your advice..but the only reason I put up with this is because I can't imagine how the same scenario would go, say about the sports, if we were divorced. Then I would have no way to buffer it.
