Oh, I left something out. When I told him to stop shouting at me, his actual response was:
"I'm NOT shouting! You're MAKING ME shout at you." That's when I know we've taken a side trip to crazy town, when he contradicts himself in the same sentence.
Later I tried talking to him about how he'd acted, and he said of course..."forget about it." I said I'm not going to forget about it. He said, I asked for your forgiveness!! Forget about it!
You DID NOT ask for my forgiveness!!!
He said, well I said forget about it! He says he means he's sorry and wants my forgiveness when he says that. I said no, that means you want me just to forget about it.
You DID NOT ask for my forgiveness!!!