Quote: He does have problems keeping an erection when we have sex and this is frustrating to him I know so I think he just thinks it's better to not bother.
He does have viagra but he won't take them. He says they make him feel funny, but that's just one of the many excuses he uses.
If he has the Viagra then can I assume he's been to the doctor about this? Viagra is not for every man. Some do experience negative side effects and for some it just doesn't work at all. There is a new drug on the market to compete with Viagra (starts with an L, I believe). Your H might want to ask the doctor about that. If he's having these problems then it's understandable that it will affect other areas of intimacy, too. My ex-husband had this problem.
Quote: I try not to bother him about it alot because it seems to make matters worse but I'm afraid if he doesn't use it he's going to lose it or maybe he already has. Any advise? Thanks
I would advise you to buy the book The Sex Starved Marriage, or borrow it from the library. It covers this issue in great detail. Has your H had a full physical recently, including complete blood workup? Perhaps some of his hormones are low. It could also be related to side effects of certain medications. It doesn't surprise me that he's reluctant to talk about it and instead withdraws. This issue flies in the face of all men have been led to belive over the years about sex performance.
Good luck and keep posting. GraniteRose (aka Barbara)
