Problem is right now she is still carrying on as the victim to her friends and family and living this life that the woman I had married never would have lived.
Don't be trying to take on her problems cipa, clearly this is her problem and her's alone to do with whatever she will do. She is sick and her problems reflect that. But the key is that they are her problems and not your's.
Not sure if you have been but if not then I would suggest giving thought to praying for your W. She is in a horrible place whether she knows it or not. I will be praying theat the darkness that she has been living for some time will be illuminated with God's light and His love. His is obviously an unconditional love that we can all learn plenty from.
