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[peacetoday]

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It is heartbreaking when the kids especially my 8 year old S says things like why do his friends dads come home at night and not his?
He asks why did I marry xh?
I try to tell mu kids Dad loves them and always will
sometimes Relationships and Marriages dont last forever
I tell then to not depend on a spouse to make them happy
to find fulfillment on their own and then a R can add to that
and I guess I try to live it
I think the hardest thing for the kids is not the Divorce
but
It is having the instability of a MLC Parent
the parent( WAS) who is no longer really committed to the kids
yes, they visit, take them to movies or dinner or gameroom
but in my situation
XH Is very unreliable for kids
he shows up at his timing when it is good for him
he is NOT there for them they know this
he used to be there
so
it is a big adjustment to lose someone so close to you like a parent at such a young age
again all out of our control
I also hole on to the thought
That XH will once again be the dad he always wanted to be
and I let it fo
that is in Gods time not mine
Peace