The weird inner peace…it comes and goes. It’s wonderful, then it’s chaos. Par for the course. When you do have the weird inner peace days, try to capitalize on it and do fun stuff for you. So you are going to give him the separation? http://divorcesupport.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?zi=1/XJ&sdn=divorcesupport&cdn=people&tm=3&gps=284_245_1259_758&f=20&tt=2&bt=0&bts=1&zu=http%3A//www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/california/ That link can help you figure out what child support would be. I know when my H checked it out, it scared him. Something that helped me a lot mentally and emotionally, and I can’t really explain why, but knowing this marriage was dead helped. I want to create a new relationship and marriage with my H. One night he said it “This marriage is dead.” I agreed with him, “Dead as a doornail.” He just looked at me sort of shocked like. I followed up with “I still hope to create a new relationship with you…in what capacity that will be, I have no idea.” But I think it was good for both of us to understand the old relationship….neither of us wants to go back there, but hopefully we can come up with something new and wonderful where everyone is getting what they need.
