Your right, her words mean absolutely nothing and it's easy to forget at times.
I am really excited for my daughter, but at the same time I feel bad in a way. Both her and my son seem to be doing real well, but I know this has and will continue to affect them.
I'm really looking forward to going with my daughter to her new school tomorrow. I'm excited for her and at the same time a little nervous too.
I guess there is some guilt there as well, coming from a divorced family myself I know all too well what lies ahead for them. My daughter broke down crying last night while I was putting her to bed. She kept asking when mommy was coming home. I did my best with this but somehow feel it's never going to be enough. It's hard to keep my anger in check when it comes to this, but I have to.
It's been a rough couple of weeks, but I've learned a few more things. I'm not looking back anymore....ever. I'm looking forward to a new beginning. I wish I could say it was a place completely free from all this selfish insanity but it's not.
She kept asking when mommy was coming home. I did my best with this but somehow feel it's never going to be enough.
The heartfelt sincerity is what they know and remember. Is it enough? I don't know. It's all you can do. My D's (17 and 14) are old enough to see I have limitations. If they know nothing else, it's that I'd walk through fire to get to them and whether they win or loose in the things they take on, I'm right there.
I don't know that I've posted to you before. You sound like an amazing Dad. You kids are very lucky.
T It is heartbreaking when the kids especially my 8 year old S says things like why do his friends dads come home at night and not his? He asks why did I marry xh? I try to tell mu kids Dad loves them and always will sometimes Relationships and Marriages dont last forever I tell then to not depend on a spouse to make them happy to find fulfillment on their own and then a R can add to that and I guess I try to live it I think the hardest thing for the kids is not the Divorce but It is having the instability of a MLC Parent the parent( WAS) who is no longer really committed to the kids yes, they visit, take them to movies or dinner or gameroom but in my situation XH Is very unreliable for kids he shows up at his timing when it is good for him he is NOT there for them they know this he used to be there so it is a big adjustment to lose someone so close to you like a parent at such a young age again all out of our control I also hole on to the thought That XH will once again be the dad he always wanted to be and I let it fo that is in Gods time not mine Peace
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My 15 year old is still hoping her dad will come home even though we are divorced and both of us are seeing other people. She said she will never accept anyone else in her life. It is so hard. She now tries to play games with me and threatens when she doesn't get her way that she will pack her bags and go live with him. This has been going on for about a month now. Last night I finally snapped. I told her go ahead and pack her bags and I would take her over there. I felt bad after doing it but what else could I do?
She called her dad and he told her to come on but that I would have to pick her up in the morning and take her to school. Umm, no way. If she wants to live with her dad then he can do it. She ended up staying home. She does this when she doesn't get her own way.
Trapt, you have done a wonderful job with yourself and your kids thru all of this. I hope your daughter does well with school. It is a big step for her (and you too). I cried when mine went to school.
Knowing a father cares so much for his kids makes me realize there are good people out there. Don't ever let go of that bond you have with your kids. (My xh went 2 months without talking to our oldest because she wouldn't accept his girlfriend) You are a great person. I am honored to say I know you. Ok, enough before I tear up. Have a super day!
I think there comes a time when one has to stop being the victim and cut your losses.
Peace..you...I ..we....move forward....and start life again. I don't understand how a man can subtract himself from the lives of his children. His loss. As Nickleback says in his song...you can't rewind.
To all....wishing you less pain and optimism that life will fill you all again with those things that make it worth living.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Thank you Grace, Peace, and T2. There are times when I really don't know what to say to my daughter. Those are the tough ones, but hey, all we can do is the best we can.
I agree FIB, I don't vew myself as a victim. I am so much closer to my children now. There are plenty of positives that have come from this. It's just difficult to see them have to go through this, but the story is the same all over this board. That is something we all have to deal with.
My goal is to finish up the rest of this journey and minimize the effects from it the best I can. One day I'll have a complete family once again. I'll get there, this place and the wonderful people here have been very helpful.
