My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[RedSoxFan]

Because it is pursuing and it is a no-no in the book. I am trying to think of how that would feel to me and I think it would be...not good. I might like H to notice very specific things but not sure. The less you say the better, most likely.

Even now, I have lost interest in hearing H compliment and I don't even have a boyfriend. I just feel like, what's the point? What do you want from me?

So, really when you compliment her, I suppose it exhibits that you have an agenda...everything is loaded. Does that make sense?

OK thanks for clarifying. That helps. Sometimes this stuff seems so clear and other times not!

There have only been a couple ILYs like on the end of an email kind of thing, not f2f. She believes I love her and acknowledges that.

The You look pretty thing is more like when she gets a haircut..."your hair looks nice" or when she changes a profile pic..."that's one of the best pics of you, you look pretty in that"

As I write this and think about it, there is definitely pursuit in my actions. I've been around her a lot more over the last 1-2 weeks. We always do lots of fun stuff with the kids before school starts and also school shopping. I have invited her to join the kids and I for a couple of things and she has had plans or declined for whatever reasons. In general our contact and communication has increased significantly in the last few weeks and she seems to be happy with this. Am I losing my way here?

I have read DR, maybe I need to reread. Applying the principles seemed hard because the book is not really written for people in my sitch.

I do much better at applying things when I understand the principles behind them. That's why I often need to discuss.