Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[trrose]

so as an update to the sitch last night. my wife didn't get home until 12...i was asleep. I was truly thinking the worst which for me, while painful, let me know what I had to do.
this am, she came in and wanted to speak(and away we go).

if u recall, this month is "lay it on the table month" bec we r both playing w house $.

Turns out my wife wanted to talk about "her selfish behavior" that she didn't really realize she was being selfish until she took it to heart the other day during one of our talks..she mentioned last night a couple of people made partner so they wanted to go out to dinner to celebrate and she went.

I explained that while there is nothing wrong w celebrating, it is the second time in a month where she s she had to work late and then went out after till 12...hence selfish.
she agreed and s maybe she is having MLC. She s that she honestly doesn't even think about it..she likes to go out and have fun where she can be herself and just enjoy.
when she asked why I don't go out more, I told her I was a family guy who got enjoyment from being around the kids and while I do like to meet a friend for a drink or take in a game I don't need to do it that often.

she s maybe going out once a week was too much. I told her that for the last 2-3 mths..it has been work late one or 2 nights plus go out and that it wasn't fair to the kids or me being the babysitter on call...she agreed (hence selfish).

its so weird that she just doesn't see what is so evident..its a little scary. while I'm hopeful we can get thru this it makes me wonder if ill be dealing w this nonsense forever...one step at a time.

after having a side conversation w a fellow DB, my w will have to be convinced of things she will learn for herself and none of my rants will work.

anyway she asked for a hug which I obliged and then I went to work.