Nell- I'm not sure I'm the best person to comment on your situation and whether or not my path is best for you. The others on this board give great advice.
In the end, I was willing to end my marriage rather than continue to give up my self respect. My gut tells me that in order for a woman to truly love you she first has to respect you. It was obvious to me that my wife didn't respect me because I didn't respect myself.
Gucci-
Thanks. You and Coach really helped. I could see an immediate change in my wife's attitute towards me when I stood up for myself and said no more.
Bill- You are right, I am not very experienced here. I don't want to lord over her. But, I also don't want to turn around and go back to the way things were. I want to build a new lasting relationship on mutual respect and love. That will require us to do a much better job of communicating, being intentional, and yes even declaring our boundaries.
It's a fine line, I think, to walk. In the end I don't know if our M will work, but this was definitely a big moment and we shall see from here.
I have scheduled a long weekend for us next weekend. Hopefully, that will be a marker for beggining again.
Me 38 / W 37 M 14 yrs S 11/S8 First Bomb: 3/6/2009 EA Second Bomb: 6/4/2009 PA Same House Separate Rooms
