Your wife just broke up with OM. You were, in a sense, her safety net which is why she procrastinated on pursuing a divorce. Don't be too quick to declare victory. There is likely LOTS of work ahead. Big questions remain as to what was happening in her, in you, and in the marriage that allowed her to talk herself in to seeking out an affair.
You've not been at this for all that long. Don't assume that you've figured it all out just because of this turn of events. My guess is that there is still significant work left to do ON you.
Secondly, I'm not too sure that I would want to continue playing the dictator role. It's one thing to stand your ground and state clearly what it is that you will and will not tolerate. It's another thing all together to begin communicating with your wife as though you hold all the cards and she has to follow your commands. Perhaps the conversation you shared was not complete, but it sounded very one-sided to me.
Again, don't misunderstand me. I totally support taking a stand and letting your wife know that you would no longer be a part of a marriage where your wife was involved with another. Just don't allow yourself to become the holier than thou moral superior now, lording your perfection over her. I don't see THAT being conducive to rebuilding a positive marriage.
Best wishes and blessings,
Bill
Last edited by Bworl; 08/25/0910:31 AM.
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