I`m interested to read about your H not guiding S through puberty as much as you`d like. I see the same trait in H. My theory about it is that they`re so wrapped up in themselves their totally unable to see their kids or anyone else.
Our D had bad tummy pains which I told H about, suspecting appendix or herna. But he hasn`t mentioned it once since! Itsd incredible really as the bottle of painkiller is plainly on view and we rarely use it. Surely he must wonder who is sick? But no.
He always lacked empathy though. Just got much worse in this phase of his life.( I`m wary of even calling it MLC anymore...)
The only one who seems to upset him is his mother. He gets tearful when he sees how cut up she is over us. (And boy, that woman can lay it on in spadefuls...)
She`s not so cut up though, that she actually wants to see him-he`s still not allowed home.I don`t get that bit either. I`d hate to cut off my kids for any reason.
Anyway, as you can see from my post to Snodderly, H is barreling ahead with separation. He made set the ball rolling with a phone call to mediators to start our spearation negotiations. Told me I had to call them too.
Thanks for your praise re my comments. I`ve got so much help here it`s good to help someone else though I`m afraid, depsite my experience in this field that I`ll get someone on the wrong track.Jump in if I do! You`re waaay ahead of me on dbing!
Have to say I`m really getting happier in myself. I met a lot of my work colleagues yesterday and got lots of praise re how well I`m looking etc.I feel great. Best in years in fact.Its been so good to be so selfish this past while. And its really true that our H`s notice everything even though they don`t say.
H actually asked me about my work yesterday-did I mind being back. I told him how good it was to meet everyone again after the long hols. I was upbeat and happy.And then I left the room.
He`s gonna have to find another boat to rock cos he`s not rockin this one!
How far along the road did you get to separation Cat? Did your H seek it or you? Oh and don`t answer if you don want to!
I`m laughing at the hypochondria! Yip, sounds very very familiar!
Hope you`re having lots of fun yourself Cat! That`s what really gets me through this.
Your S is a similar age to mine if I recall correctly. Mine not looking to shave or drive yet though!Good luck with that!
