Great news Oz re your your new place and your pets.
You really must go to the movies alone if H isn't coming. Otherwise he will think you put it out there simply as an invite for him. He may say no just to test you and see if you really will go alone.
Yes, my thoughts exactly Cas that is why I will definitely be going because I never would have before, if he wasn't going to go then I used not to go,so now that has to change.
I like going to the movies alone...I can really sink into it with no distractions.
Congrats on the home!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Yes it will be different for me going alone, but I do know that a lot of people go alone.
Funny, I have the home, haven't told H yet, he has just come back with an idea to solve the problem. His solution was to just tell the agent to take the pets off the application, but now I can tell him it is all sorted and best of all I DID IT ALONE WITHOUT HIS HELP, YAY FOR ME. Just organised for the power, gas and water to go on and now have to get the internet on or D will have a breakdown without it and I must admit, I feel lost without it as well but she is definitely worse than me.
SWEEEEEEEEEEET - oh Oz, that's pure magic that it's all sorted. I felt sure that it would turn out OK but you never can tell until it's all agreed in finality, can you?? Oh, happy, happy, happy ... amazingly great and overjoyous news for you. What a weight off *phew*! Can't remember who said it but someone quoted that there is some Good Luck on the board lately and it certainly seems to have found it's way to you. I'm really pleased. How fortunes change in a heartbeat, eh??
I am laughing to myself here as I was planning to tell my H that I would be going away for the weekend and would he come and look after the babies. SIL moved to Melbourne back last year and when all of this nonsense with the MLC kicked off, BIL invited me over to stay for as long as I felt I needed the break. I haven't been in touch with them recently as SIL started to stir the can of worms and yet I thought that to catch up with them would be a good way of being in Melbourne and catching up with you!! Of course, this would really yank H's chain and I can't do it due to finances at the moment but it was a good thought whilst it lasted. I also thought that, as he tells me there are some great flight bargains to be had (as he spends going to Adelaide to OW), then sauce for the gander could be sauce for the goose too, eh?? I hate myself for those thoughts but there are more of them (see my latest post)!!
Oooh, just read the posts on the next page ... yes, keep calm. You have come this far on your own and you will do the next bit too - thats just the practicalities. D can help you, of that I am sure, if you need a hand. She sounds sensible and even if she is an emotional crutch, at least she is there with you, as will S be on Friday - you must be so excited that he is coming home too!! You have lots of help so see your kids as sensible friends now that they are old enough and let them help you - I'm sure that they would be only too pleased and it would give them a sense of purpose at this time when their whole world is out of whack too.
Keep breathing ... deep, calming breaths. In with peace (breath in) 1, 2, 3, out with hate (blast out) 4, 5, 6 ... !!
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WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Maybe not to reply may be the way at the moment - he will be home this evening presumably and if he's that interested, he will ask you again. I would certainly be saying 'I get the keys' and not 'we' - even though he is financially assisting you, this is supposed to be your place. If he moves in later, that will be up for discussion but right now, perhaps you need to wrap that bubble of protection around you and D.
What do others think??
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
I just don't know, I won't reply cause I will be going home in about an 1hr, I will quickly organise dinner, get changed and head off to the movies, he hasn't mentioned the movies. He won't be home till 8.30pm by then the movie will be well started and my phone will be off.
I have just found out that it will take 2 weeks to get the internet connected, I was going to buy a prepaid wireless USB stick in the meantime but S said not to, he will bring his down and leave it with me till our internet is connected which will be great but I feel bad taking his internet away from him for that time.
OK - so (((Oz))) - you have hit a bump in the road. Now, swerve around it ... you were all prepared for the movies on your own and so nothing has changed there. Go for it, pretend that I am with you and we are enjoying the film together, OK?!! I could use a night out like you wouldn't believe :o) H will be at home when you get back and that will be something to 'look forward to' in that you will get to talk - and you will have done your 180 this evening so you will be feeling on top of things! Plus, the comedy of the film will put you in good store - that's why you chose it, remember? Come on now - what would you tell me?? That's right - PMA - get it, get it NOW!!!!
How lovely of your S to offer bringing his internet for you ... accept it graciously. He would not have offered if he had not wanted to and we must learn to accept gifts ... this may be all that S has to offer to you right now so don't make him feel that his efforts are being rebuffed - reach out, take it and say thank you. Afterall, it's so short term if your line will be sorted within two weeks!
There - how are you feeling now? Ready to go home, get ready and get out there to the movie??!! Come on ... I'm waiting for you with the popcorn!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Oh, happy, happy, happy ... amazingly great and overjoyous news for you. What a weight off *phew*! Can't remember who said it but someone quoted that there is some Good Luck on the board lately and it certainly seems to have found it's way to you. I'm really pleased. How fortunes change in a heartbeat, eh??