You know, my initial response was to say, "NO WAY!" And, in 30 secs had come up with all of these "other" things he does to not be intimate (emotional or physical)... doesn't want to go away together anymore, doesn't act like he'd want to go on a date night with me, etc... But, gosh, all of those add up to not having to explain an "issue," right?
However, thinking out loud, he seriously has detached (until a recent minor thaw) from our friends, extended family, and even some activities he used to enjoy.
It tears me up to remember all of our trips for our anniversary to The American Club @ Kohler, trips to the city, dinners at great restaurants, and many more. It also tears me up that I never paid enough attention to him intimately... I was so busy! God!
But, wouldn't you think I would have noticed? I mean... an attempt gone awry, something shrinking, anything!? In one of our inital during-post bomb blow-ups, I think I might have screamed this possibility at him... (At this time I was doing all the wrong things.)
So, how would I know? Straight up... "Hey H, I'm not believing your ILYBNILWY bit anymore. I see you love me. I feel you love me. Tell me, do you have some issues with erections I should know about? Because, if so, my God, that can be fixed! Help me out here! I'm in misery!!!"
Mostly, tongue in cheek, but you get the drift...
Some thought to be given to this...
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
