With all I've read, I suspect you're better at delicate situations than I am, but I've gotten better.
I don't know what I'd do without my D's. As difficult as some of it has been(and in all honesty continues to be), I am sooo lucky in that regard. I'm working on a game plan now for when they're gone <sigh>. It feels like no time at all.
I agree that almost anything you can say to them they will use to make themselves feel guilty. They are old enough to understand that guilt implies you've done something wrong and they haven't. It's just that all our choices impact someone other than ourselves. That's not necessarily bad, just the way it is. When I'm having a rough time of things (for whatever reason), I can tell my D's that without any specifics if necessary. They may feel bad for me, but they're learning not to take it on as their fault or something they have to fix. I'm really proud of the amazing young women they are growing into.
