I feel your pain and disappointment that your H (and/or his lawyer) would ask for this type of examination.
My xH did the same thing (or it was his Ls idead..doesn't matter, he didn't stop the L from demanding it).
It was humiliating and expensive. I've had a chronic health condition(s) since 1983. It kept me home for the better part of 20 years. I won't go into details, but after many tests and tries of treatment, there isn't really anything that can 'cure' the condition. You find a treatment plan that helps manage it the best you can, and learn to live with the ups and downs. This condition not only impacted my life, but also the life of my H and our children, and what we were able to do and not do. I always had thought he understood, and never really acted like he resented me because of it . So when his attorney demanded I go through this examination type of thing, I was completely floored! Why was he acting like he didn't know how severe and painful my life had been affected?
Anyway, I had to get several doctors testimonies as to the facts of my health problems, the treatments used, the probably future of employment/restrictions. It cost over almost 2K for these depositions. Money that I could ill afford since all my legal costs were my own, even though H was the one that filed.
Arianne, you will get through this...I promise you. You will come out all much stronger than you came into this. Hold your head high...with dignity and grace. You have nothing to be ashame of. He does, for even letting his attorney request this.
I made it through...I'm still standing...and you will be too.
As you've been told before, treat this like business matter..not the emotional roller coaster you actually feel like you're on.
My prayers will be with you!
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
