I get confused with all this 'validate his feelings' and then 'don't be needy' and often feel that the two overlap so neatly that it's no wonder we all get confused!
I am thinking that I just won't answer that email at all. He has ignored stuff from me in the past and I don't see why he should expect me to do any other. He said, when I challenged him "oh, I didn't know that you expected a reply - your words seemed like statements rather than questions" - so I shall use the same logic this time around. Afterall, a business partner would not ALWAYS expect a reply following a statement, would they?!!
It may also act as a 180 in that he will be expecting me to respond to any small contact, as that is what I have always done. Not this one.
Talk about hitting the nail on the head when you say that he sees me as the enemy at the moment - yes, that's just how it feels! Also, a little while ago, I mentioned that the kisses on messages had become very sporadic and that's when they ceased completely. He still uses my initials at times to address me, but not often. Our first initail is the same and so we have always used our middle initial too, just to differentiate on mail and stuff but it's kind of become one of the pet ways to address each other also.
You are so right about the babies and I am glad that yours are looking after you equally as well. The love of pets, eh? Totally undconditional.
Yes, it would be good to have some advice on the card, if any of the experts are listening!!
Be back later ... I'm feeling slightly more up than I was first thing this morning so that's a small gain, which is all that we can ask right now.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
