My H said he wants a D, I'm devastated!

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Chel
from the many posts Ive read here on this site, it does seem like the majority of WAS do eventually move out
some never leave but most do go
I remember my XH stayed in the house 4 months post bomb
I also never thought he would go
he talked about it
but
my xh was never intimate with me again after bomb
he slept on the couch and stayed out every night till 2am or later
there was OW..at that point I wasnt sure as my xh always seemed stable and comitted to M
When he did finally leave, he just packed some plastic bags of clothes and left
I think he said he wasnt coming back and sleeping at Bill's House

My house became very peacful
the energy shifted from tension, anxiety fear scare
to
Peace
I started being more available to kids and worked on healing m,uself
I meditated and journeled daily
I went to therapy weekly the whole time
MY xh never came home
He M ow and is now depressed and in debt
he is on prescription drugs-I would describe him as a mess
I am grateful we are D

Your H may get upo and leave one day whjen you least expect it
or he may chose to ride this out at home
the ones who never move out are more likely to reconcile later
so its your call what to do
If you can ride it out with him at home
or if you want to ride it out a part
It does seem from the boards and the MLC Reading that it is a real journey that takes time and ther eis no way to rush H thru the tunnel
try to take care of yourself
and you will know what to do
trust yourself
peace