Whatisis: I don't know that anyone took that as offensive (I did not) but I didn't give it much thought. I know that some people are there by unfortunate circumstances but there are others who are just too lazy and self righteous to get a job. Those are the ones I personally have a problem with.
I think when you are ready you will post your photo if you're comfortable. You can always just read profiles and see if you find someone you feel you might be interested in talking too. Getting your feet wet is scary at first but you communicate well and I think those from this bb do very well because they know how to chat comfortably with those of the opp sex. You don't have to ask them out - just get a feel for what you are ready for.
When I thought about what I wanted in someone new - there were lots of desires on my list. But it came down to this - I needed to find someone I could trust with my heart. Without that - nothing else would matter. And that is who I found. He is nothing like the picture in my head of my "perfect man". Nor was he the right age or live in the right city even. But none of that mattered when I found someone who proved himself honorable and honest.
Long before I even considered dating again I made a list of what I was looking for in a new R. And I'm glad I did. Because I went back to that list many times and tried to stay true to myself.
I'm tired too. Different reasons. But just tired. Glad to get back to the cottage to finish out the summer.
You're going to be just fine. watch and see what happens in the next 6 months.
