WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

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There is no justification for the cheating and it was complete dishonesty to say she tried. She lied and cheated and her halo is dented.

Problem is right now she is still carrying on as the victim to her friends and family and living this life that the woman I had married never would have lived.
I don't see any signs of remorse, rather more of relief that she doesn't have to hide it from me any more. I don't know for sure since I haven't seen nor talked to her since the confrontation, but that's what my gut is saying.

Talking and venting about this does help and I appreciate all the support I have gotten from everyone on this board. It amazes me the kindness of people on this board that take the time to post and call/chat.

Thank you

Detatch, my man! We've got NO CONTROL over what they think, say, or do. We've got NO CONTROL over their thoughts, feelings, or actions. So, DON'T BOTHER trying!
We do have COMPLETE CONTROL over what we think, say, and do. We have COMPLETE CONTROL over own own thoughts, feelings, and actions...so, we need to focus on the things that we DO have control over.
"I don't know for sure..." - Then deal with what you KNOW, and leave the uncertainties alone. Why put the added burdens on yourself of worrying about things you're unsure of...instead of just dealing with 'what is'?
Then stay here and talk about it, and vent...because you do have alot of support here on this board. I'll have some good thoughts for you too, CIPA...and I'm sorry that you're having to deal with the things that you are.