UPSIDE DOWN and struggling badly.

[Eskimo Nell]

Hi Sanderika
Firstly, I'm sorry to hear you sounding so down - you are the one that normally keeps us going here so I am concerned about what is happening in your world?

I guess that each day, something new is revealed and it helps others to assist us more - in finding 'the script' yesterday, I just saw things a little clearer myself, despite that the outcome was negative. I know that these OW are often reactive on the part of a MLC but some work and I feel that H is going to be one of those - I know him too well and I know how he operates. He would not have done this if he had any doubts at all of making it so. I know that doesn't account for the tramp but she is digging her nails in to him and I don't see her letting go any time soon - she has too much to gain. She has baggage, he doesn't. He stands to be quite wealthy soon (if and when our house is sold) - why would she let that slip through her fingers??

Certainly, your Scenario #2 is what was evidenced when I went back to the UK in June. He didn't make one move toward getting me back. His emails merely supported my decision to be there and gave me advice for stuff that I should do in setting up my new life back there. I could not believe that this was a man who was so adamant that we should have ever emigrated in the first place!

I agree that he is in Alien territory right now but as for him living a personal h*ll, I'm not so sure anymore. I believe that he was but he has changed and I see more of the change everytime I see/hear from him. He is getting tired of our sitch and it's making him resent me - even if he didn't before. I won't comply with his wishes to make this all go away quickly and so I continue to incur his wrath.

I feel sorry that you have endured your sitch for 4 years - I certainly don't want to treat in your footprints, if you will forgive me for saying so. Like you, I mostly feel in my heart that this can not be overcome anymore. I don't have any expectations either and yet I don't know where to turn next. He has always been the one to support and hold me up and now he is the dog that is biting me, despite the pats that I have been giving.

Thanks again for your encouragements (((Sanderika)))