Positive developments? #2

[jon2911]

You basically already apologized via text right?

Well, kinda. I didn't say I'm sorry, I was wrong, any of that. I'm terrible at that. Need to go back and read 5 languages of apology again.

I'd leave it be for a while.

Has waiting a week or two and reaching out with a gift or nice note been received well in the past? If so, then do so.

Look back and see what kind of waiting periods have worked - 1 week vs 2 vs 3.

Remember, do what works.

I'll have to think about that. This is such a different period in my sitch. We haven't gone more than 2 weeks without contact during the 2 years of separation, I don't think. Will write more on this later.

Why did you know the conversation wouldn't go well? Could you have picked a time or place that might have made it more likely to go well?

I didn't think it would go this badly, but W has been very protective of this group of friends, and her family. It's almost like she wants to punish me and make me think they all hate me. When I actually do have contact with them, like these Facebook messages, that's not the case at all. In fact, W has cut herself off from all these friends. One of them told me "so, she won't talk to us, but she says you can't talk to us either?" He was very upset about it.

Somehow W is still trying to be secretive and keep up appearances. Basically my message to her was I'm not going to let her control who I have contact with. Friends I've talked with today think that this was a good thing. I'm unhappy with the timing and leaving on a bad note, but any other time during the visit wouldn't have been any better.

The rollercoaster is really getting to me, mainly because last week was so nice and made me remember how much I miss W. We got some great things done around her place, like putting in stepping stones by her parking spot for when it rains. Realizing I probably won't see her for a few more weeks is really tough.