UGH - your potluck mixer doesn't sound like much fun. I remember pushing myself to do things that I thought would help push me forward. And they weren't always fun - kind of put myself out of my "comfort zone" but they were part of my growth experience and really did no harm.
As for the 2 year mark - well I don't remember mine being traumatic. In fact - I really feel that when I reached that point I made a big leap forward. I no longer had unrealistic expectations and things were not so painful then.
As far as putting up your profile on a dating site - my experience is that the photo is extremely important. The general thinking is that if you can't put your photo up - you must be a troll (not that I think you are). People are very visual and need that to find attraction. Of course looks are not everything to everyone but it is the first impression.
You sound down. I hope it is temporary. Remember that our feel goods and feel bads come and go in waves. The time between our bouts of feeling bad gets greater over time. You'll be better in a day I hope.
