Divorce not busted 3

[sandi2]

When I was a WAW....I absolutely "hated" it when people would say that love was a decision. In fact, I remember sending some posts on this board regarding that very subject. I simply could not buy into the idea that you chose to love a person and that it wasn't all about feelings. I know & understand the teaching behind it, but to a WAW, you better duck if you say those words! I think I remember saying something sarcastic about how I might as well be looking at some stranger on the street and telling myself that "I choose to love that man for my H!" and that it made about as much sense as saying love is a choice. (Remember that I was still very much a WAW when I came to this board.) Since false "love chemicals" are flooding the brain of a WAW and has her fogged out, it isn't so hard to see why she would not accept this concept.

Do things b/c they are the right thing to do FOR YOU, and no one else. DO NOT have ANY expectation of anything when you do them. NONE.

Orich, I know you realize all of this and I don't want to beat a horse but maybe somebody else is reading and could use this thought. I thought of you being such a dedicated Christian man when I was reading the abov e quote and how that Christians live "right" b/c it is what God wants them to do and not b/c they expect a blessing in return. (At least, that is the way it should be with Christians.) If we strive to live a godly life--or to do a certian good deed toward another...thinking we will be repaid from the Lord with some wonderful blessing, then we have lost the entire concept of being a Christian. We do what the Lord teaches us to do b/c we "love" Him....not b/c we expect anything in return. Come to think of it....that is how we should treat love in all situations. I guess it is just so hard in a MR b/c it's complex. We get so hung-up on our hang-ups. If only we would keep those sweet feelings we had on our wedding day! Hummmm....that is when it becomes a "choice".