K4D Rising #4

[The Wifey]

Wifey,

thanks for sharing that kind hearted post with us, wifey. I am sure it was not meant to sound smug or condescending, or critical and hypocritcal all at the same time, like the way you blasted cg, who has also posted here for months, (not weeks), with detailed lists of suggestions that were incredibly time consuming and almost completely ignored.

Can the sarcasm. I know I hit a nerve. I call it like I see it. You were saying the same things over and over and over and he didn't change, yet you kept saying it.

Unlike you, who shows up late at the party and tells the rest of us how to do it "right", why not stick around for MONTHS POSTING, not merely "lurking" til you can come in and blast US and then "show us how it is done" only to repeat to K4, what WE said months ago, and NOT more kindly than we did then btw....

I can only say that my "party" started a long time ago. What you were doing or saying wasn't working. Sorry you feel I wasn't as kindly.

and practice what you preach about the 2 x 4 s. OMG you have such double standards!

I never said not to 2x4 him. If he needs it he gets it. I did say you were frustrated and needed to take a break.

We all have our tales to tell and had kids in the hospital last week, or deaths to deal with, or CG's horrible health problems that make K4's look like middle school problems,

And you were all in my prayers for everything. It is horrible how life seems to pile up the problems some times.

and then to come and see k4 whine about "Being abandoned" after Publicly saying he only wants positive feedback (his words) but privately asking ME to not give up on him. well K4, I have to, but Yeah I thought you needed an explanation for my not posting here, and I stand by it!

That is between you and him and I never directly addressed the whining. I go by my training - reward the good and do your best to ignore the bad, because even negative attention is a reward of attention.

But again, YOUR message wifey could have left out 2/3 of it to get YOUR "important" message across. You still owe CG an apology. I doubt she's waiting for one.

I don't owe you the information, but I did apologize to CG and told her she was a lady of class and grace.

You hurl out the 2 x 4's and then pretend to have done it lovingly. Please... Be here, in 8 months posting to kevin at least 4 times a week and then tell everyone how to do it "right". Actually that would still be obnoxious.

I'm sorry you feel that way.

I call it like I see it. All I said was take a break because you are frustrated and your posts, in a frustrated state, dripping with that frustration, were not helping him to change one bit. And they were obviously causing you distress.

Do YOU feel better now? I think that's what your goal was. Hope it worked.

My goal? My goal? mind-reading? Dear, my goal was just to get everyone to stop, take a break, and move on in a constructive way.

What was being said was not helping. You could continue to do the same thing over and over. Or not.

The only thing you are correct in is that it IS frustrating to watch K4 go in circles, and NOT help his d's. He has, if it's true, (b/c you have hidden things in the past k4) "set up" appointments for his d's soon...okay well

MY kids got appointments within a week of the bomb, and I didnt' ask h for any input really. (Why would the WAS want to admit there might be a problem? Why would I wait for permission to help my d's pain?) I just dealt with it alone just like I dealt with their nightmares and tears....

and now h is back home and feels pain and shame and is working hard on his Rs with the girls, and they are STILL getting c! Why not? Their well being always came before mine, b/c they are inextricably linked.
it's the only thing I give a crap about in this thread now, is those girls.

I agree with you wholeheartedly about the need for C for his d's and for himself.

I hope k4's girls somehow get thru this without HIS pain ruling their lives.

And k4, yes my d is out of the hospital, as you MAY know, (from the other threads.)

I am so glad she is on the mend. Nothing ever scared me more than when my s was in the hospital.

Wifey, again I would suggest you practice what you preach. Don't tell others not to give 2 x 4's while you doing that exact thing to them. It's just hypocritical and self righteous, and I was clearly not going to post here anymore anyhow so it was also totally unecessary.

Please re-read my posts and tell me where I said not to 2x4 him? The posts had gotten quite snarky and you were obviously short on patience.

Perhaps my communication is lacking here - but you needed to take a break. IF you tell someone to do A over and over and they don't do A, you can keep telling them to do A or just stop for a bit and get your bearings. Then you might be able to think about B or C. Or even make the decision not to say anything and let them flounder.

Also, it was not at all clear that you were not going to post here again because you and others have said it and then continued to post.

Ever wonder why you do this to so many women?

j-

Hmmmmmm, so how many women have I done this to?