I haven't been confiding in her at all in the last 6 months, it's mostly W that's talking to me about things that bother her. Like StepS13 being all moody with her and not listening to her. W told me the other day that a friend from her town (not OM) that knows StepS13 well, told her that StepS13 doesn't like staying with her because she's always stressed. That explains to me why he likes staying with me, I'm just relaxing after I get back from work and go with the flow. Then she told me that she texted StepS13 an "I love you" and didn't get anything back. I called him that day and he picked up for me. I'm starting to think that StepS13 (who wanted to move back down here) is starting to realize that W wanting to be separated is what's causing him to have to stay with his dad and not be able to move back down.
I guess I'll have to think about how a post-D life will be w.r.t. W, because I'm not sure. What I've been doing the last couple of weeks (remain more distant and I don't ask about anything unless it has to do with the kids) seems to have triggered some increase in her communications with me. She has called me more often, a lot of times about almost nothing and then she'll ask about stuff and try to make conversation for a bit. Just this morning, I saw that she sent me an email with a link to a funny YouTube video. Then this afternoon, a msg saying she had gotten the boys new clothes... Neither one needed a response, so I didn't (I would have a couple of months ago).
I have the urge to respond of course, but I keep telling myself that that's what I have been doing for the past year and it hasn't gotten me anywhere, so it's a cheeseless tunnel (pretty sure about that by now). Plus, what I am doing now seems to have made her take some kind of notice. I think I'll keep this course for several more weeks. Then I'll be overseas for work for 4 weeks: go dark during that time. Then reassess??
