I won't be of much help only to tell you my wife of 15 years dropped the bomb that she didn't want to be married anymore in May. Still living in the same house. We have 3 boys 11, 9, 7. Thought marriage was good, If you read my threads I found out that it wasn't. I have heard 20 different reasons why she wants out. The common theme is controling. Easy one to fix if I had known about it. I really didn't. I see it know through therapy(she stopped marriage therapy after 3 sessions). But again, enough to throw away 15 years. I got the I'm not in love with you anymore as well. She has made no attempt to reconcile. Which is why I am still in Limbo. I feel sometimes she is trying to break me so I will file. I have gone from suck up to her, to mr. nice guy, done my 180's, my GAL's(get a life). Nothing has made much difference yet. I want to save my marriage. Right now I am in the I am not going to talk to my W phase. The hard thing is we all have had our ups and downs. I had insomnia on and off for a year. This didn't help things. I think it pushed it over the edge for her as well. But when the day is done, this isn't about what we did. It is about them and they can only fix themselves. We just have to go on dealing with the pain everyday. Sitting on the sidelines hoping they change their mind. You will hear alot on this site about taking care of you, making changes for you not her. We have all heard it is too late for the changes, I can't trust they'll stick. It is like they took a chapter out of the WAW/MLC book. It sucks, but there is nothing we can do. I have made every mistake there is. And will keep on making some. Everyday is hard. The hard part with your story is how fast it is moving. Papers in just a month or two is pretty fast. Not sure what to tell you on that one. This is a good place to speak with others about what is going on with your marriage or your separation.
Remarried 6 mo S 12 S 13 S 16 SD 12 SD 16 SD 17 SS 19
