Fall and Cat, You both have had front row seats to the early puberty years of your hs. Yes, they will question you about whether or not you think they need to see a shrink. Deep down, they know something is off kilter and will ask you. Will they do something about it? Nope. They continue to run a muck until the stretch of train track is gone.
I know it's very difficult to sit back and watch the drama play out, but that's what you have to do. You have an adult/child living under your roof. The only thing you can do is take care of your real children, yourself and your finances. As for your adult/child....let him go out there and do whatever he needs to do to grow up.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
