1. If you search for my name, you will find me, so I am not going to repost my story.
What changed? DH broke his leg in March after we had been separated since last July. No, I did not move back in to take care of him! It ended up that he might have had to move to San Antonio for medical care. It was a bad break and a really bad infection ensued. Did I want to move with him? My answer? If we are staying married, and you love me, then absolutely. If not, then no, why would I?
What followed was lots of tears/crying/ and emotions. It was hard for all of us. He wanted to stay married, but he was enjoying his cake. Long story short, I am letting my apartment go back and moving back into the house. It has been a very long road for all of us.
What "worked" for me? It wasn't any one technique. It was letting go. It was knowing that I was going to be okay, no matter what. It was accepting that we were all moving on, me included. I had set a late June/early July deadline and I was sticking to it. I was ready to move forward, divorced actually! I was almost looking towards it, doing what I wanted for a change! But this is way better!
So that's my update. If you have questions, please feel free to ask.
Puppy, if you are reading this, you were right. He did sleep with her. Well, he tried, but it didn't "work" KWIM? But still, it's the same thing, to me. Just so you can put it in your hat. And Jeannine, LMAO, you were right too, babe.
I can never thank all of you enough. Smart Cookie, Sandy2 (who found me the first night I was here), 25MLC, Puppy, Song, Breakaway, John, all of you. I know I missed some! I greatly appreciate everything you have done. I love you guys!!
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
I'm happy for you!! It's amazing (yet sad) that when we pull away, that's when we're actually our most attractive, isn't it?
Not to be a buzzkiller or anything, but I do hope you'll consider getting a full-panel STD test if you haven't already done so, just for your own peace-of-mind. There are too many horror stories (including on this very board) of STDs (or worse) getting passed from a formerly wayward spouse to their mate.
I'm also curious as to what boundaries, if any, you and your husband discussed in conjunction with getting back together? Did he agree to be transparent?
I am thrilled to hear that. If you ever read on here again, I am proud of how you handled everything. Good job!!
I'm still working at mine.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
