How true... This was one of the main messages at our Retro experience this weekend, and as my wife and I made the 5hr drive home we discussed this topic quite extensively the clear picture that I got from her was that she buys into the whole concept of love as a decision however, the decision is hers to make and the time has to be right.
There were certain behaviors from me in the past that still require forgiveness and this needs to happen followed by trust before the "Decision" to love can happen again.
These two things cannot happen (at least in my situation) until she sees clear and consistent behavior change. The amount of that behavior change and time differs from one woman to the next(in my opinion)hopefully this amount of time is reasonable, and no I do not know what reasonable is...One day at a time.
Me 42, Her 34 M 3yrs, T 8yrs D 5 S 3 S 2 ILYBINILWY 02/09 Sleeping in same bed/with intimacy "I,m done" her words: 05/28/09 She's trying again 06/25/09 Second "I'm done" 07/11/09 She's trying again. Retro Aug 22/09
