I went to see a L today for the first time to get some info. The meeting went really good and he is one of the best if not the best L in town. I just want to protect myself from this crazy person I used to know. The weird part right now is I think that reality is hitting me and detachment is occurring pretty fast. I am kind of OK with all of this right now. Who knows if that will change, but I know that I will be OK through all of this if she follows through with the D. I found some indisputable proof last night that the EA is a PA and I will leave it at that, but I found that out about 10 minutes before she told me she saw a L. That is probably fueling my detachment and I think this is a good thing. I now get to work on me for no other reason except to better myself and make the best of my life and my children's lives.
LR,
Been following your thread and can sympathize for you since I'm in the same boat. I'm curious...what type of advice did the lawyer give? I'm in North Carolina and although our D will be 10 months down the road, I talked to someone at a law firm and they told me the courts don't care about an A unless the wife is asking for alimony. And in that case, she would be hard pressed to get it. But as for assets and children, 50/50 is usually the norm regardless of the circumstances. I think that's a terrible law since any spouse that has an A and puts him/herself before his/her children should have to suffer by losing some custody.
I had my weekly session with my MC today and she told me a couple things you may find helpful:
1. SLOW DOWN! D is a long way down the road (for me) and I don't need to make any rash decisions.
2. Do not push my WAS to end her PA and come move back home. If she does this, she will only continue to have feelings for the OM and try to see him behind my back. She said go NC and let the PA die it's natural death, which it will.
3. I would love to have full custody of my children and thought about asking my wife for it. But my MC said don't do it...my W needs to be stressed now by her job, OM AND the kids. She needs to feel what it's like to live that life. And besides, taking the kids 100% will only give her more time to spend with the OM.
