ok so now my brain is getting a little fried...you say she doesnt know what she wants, which is probably true..would you say if I was a great husband communicator all that stuff that this never would hvae happened? OR do you think this was inevitable?
Well, how the hell would I know?
I think looking at the timing (post second baby and confirmed depression) it was probably inevitable. Marital discourse is by most accounts inevitable/predictable (check out the stages of marriage on the Retrouvaille site- you can google it). But, you play your part.
Doesn't matter, here you are. You've got a crisis on your hands and you have to handle it one way or the other so assigning blame is useless.
I will say that hearing those words come out of your W's mouth must suck and I think part of this is going to have to entail you manning up and perhaps calling her bluff. My H would pout and say "why don't you go get your perfect guy..." and taunt me. That was no good.
I think you're ready for some good advice cuz I'm veering off...Coach...
