I mean I sat in therapy with my H with my breast-feeding 5 month old in the waiting room (6 years ago) and we discussed our sex life barely even addressing any of these issues...WTF?
My W and I sat in therapy with our 6-month old (now 15 months)next to us in a baby-carrier. At that point, my W's statement was "I am not attracted to YOU" - not "I don't want sex". She was in the full depths of an EA, and definitely was not feeling Asexual.
Thinker, I suggest you make a distinction between an EA and a PA in this sitch. She was physically inhibited and it was safer in her mind because her lack of sexual availability probably freaked her out too. I fantasized about other men...but actual physical contact, no way. I'm trying to impart something that fits in with your sitch and you're kind of missing it...
