Have any of you ever read the book "His Needs, Her Needs?"
Some of the theory there is that although we LBS's meet a good number of the WAS's needs we aren't meeting all of them. Therefore an OM/OW only have to meet the one need that his been missing. Viola, the WAS now feels "complete." (While we are still meeting the majority of the needs the new person gets all of the "feeling completed" benefit as they are the icing on the cake) The WAS doesn't know that we are the cake, they just know that needs are all now being met.
I may not be the best at paraphrasing it, but I think that's close.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.