Hey D, I dont know if you know this, but Mach is away for the week.
Listen, this stuff is hard. You are so early into this that detaching will not be there completely for a long time.
I am over two years in and I have just now begun to feel fully detached and even then it comes and goes. So, dont be so hard on yourself.
Look, if you really dont want to go to the fundraiser, although you would be doing a good thing, then dont go. It is better for you not to go then be there and be miserable.
Focus on you and your kids. Let your w blow in the wind right now.
She is lost, broken and only she can fix her. When h was still at home, I used to think about how I would treat a neighbor and that's how I would treat him.
I dont think it is wrong of you to tell her that you would prefer speaking to the kids together regarding the situation.
