Master the deer in the headlights look and zip your lip. You are not moving out. Let her prattle on about what is on her mind and answer yes or no questions only. Don't agree or disagree.
Don't argue or ask her to stop. Don't try to change her mind. Pull a turtle and pull in your limbs. She gets no more information from you right now. This is her deal and anything you do right now will be twisted to confirm what she is doing right now is right.
On telling your children, you do do it together. But you also confirm for them that this is not what you want. You say less than her and only let them know you both love them and will always be their parents.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
