I don't know either, Jeff. I just know that it has been over 2 years since he started his affair, and 7 1/2 months since he moved out for the second time. I could not honestly say that his affair is over or that he isn't already seeing other people.
MIL called me Friday and in convo. mentioned something about Dan picking up camping chairs from my garage. He had mentioned them to me, but never come to get them. I told her that, and she said, "Oh, last night he headed out around 10 and said he was going in to get the chairs from you and he didn't get home till after midnight"
The thought that he is using me in any way as a cover story is ridiculous. I never told him she told me that...
Then last night he didn't want to 'talk details' because he was too tired from the camping trip, needed to drop some things off at the storage unit, etc. Well 2 1/2 hrs later his mom (MIL) called me trying to track him down and warn him about a car accident on their road blocking traffic. So he never had gone home, guess he wasn't that tired?
I don't know what my point is. I guess it is that judging by actions my H hasn't done anything that reflects a desire to be with me in about a year. Even then it was the gesture to go to Retro but his heart just wasn't in it...he shies away from filing for D or even talking seriously about the details/fallout/whatever that getting D entails. But avoiding talking about it is not the same as actively trying to prevent it...
I am just finally tired of devoting 90% of my headspace to someone who can treat me cruelly when he feels like it or like a friend when he feels like it but always at his convenience.
